This morning my husband, Kim, texted me "Happy Valentine's Day." He is out of town again and he remembered it was Valentine's day before I did. I am not sad that we can't spend Valentine's day together. He is out of town earning a paycheck that supports our family. Besides, we've never really done much for Valentine's day. Mostly because our wedding anniversary is just the month before.
I suppose I am a little weird in that I don't really feel the need for flowers and candy or a fancy dinner for Valentine's Day. Don't get me wrong I love all of those things. But my husband doesn't need a day to show me, how much I mean to him. He does it in so many other more meaningful ways.
For example; I was looking at buying another computer for the sewing machine repair class. I was having trouble justifying it. Not him. He told me to get it. And when I pointed out that I have 2 laptops already, one for daily use and one for quilting, he said we don't need to risk contaminating my quilting computer and that my other computer is so old that it needs replaced soon anyway.
Kim supported me in my buying my long arm even though I am not that proficient as a quilter. In fact, when it came down paying for the long arm, I was going to have to borrow money if I wanted the computerized set up. I could pay cash for the basic set up. The options were a) take out a loan and get the set up I wanted, b) pay cash and buy the basic set up. Then hope to get the computerized system added later, c) pay cash and forget about the computerized system. I really wanted the computerized system. You see, I have hopes of supplementing our retirement income by quilting for other quilters. The computerized system makes that easier and more profitable.
Kim told me to get the loan. He said if I didn't get the computerized system now I never would. Then I would never be totally happy with it. He said to get what I need to succeed and we will pay it off as fast as we can. Then he used his bonus to pay it off 3 years early.
Kim is a great gift giver, but some women don't think so. I got a water heater for Christmas a couple of years ago. Some women thought that was an awful gift. But that gift said to me, you deserve to have a hot bath when you get home from work. Before for the new water heater, in order to have a full bath tub of hot water, we had to heat a large pot on the stove. Not anymore. Now I get a hot bath every night without a lot of extra effort or wait time.
When going to a quilt shop, I always spend more if Kim is with me because he picks out fabric too. And he will even go to a quilt store without me and buys me fabric. He will make sure dinner is cooked (even if he makes the kids do it) if I am working late. Baths are often drawn for me while I am busy taking care of stuff before bed.
No, I don't need flowers, chocolates, or fancy dinners. I have a husband who shows his love for me everyday in more meaningful ways. I know I am lucky.
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