Today started out poorly. Our trainee walked off the job today. I got the call at 7:00am. I was on the phone and dealing with crap and the fall out of the situation while driving to work. After a bunch of discussions, HR getting ahold of her and a small investigation. It turns out she had been lying to us about things and it was about to fall apart. We are better off without her.
I feel for her trainer though. The trainee tried to make it about the trainer being rude and insulting. This trainer would never purposefully hurt someone's feelings. I'll take the word of the person I've known for 8 years over someone who I've known for 2 weeks. Especially when I found out she had already lied to me.
Chapter 8 from the book is a good one. It's titled Do Something Nice for Someone Else - and Don't Tell Anyone About It. First, I know for a fact that doing things for others is a great mood booster. Second, it creates positive energy in both your lives.
The trick here is not telling anyone. When we do good things we tend to share with others what we've done. We are unconsciously seeking approval. That doesn't make us bad. It could actually inspire others to do the same.
But there is something very magical about no one knowing. When I was in High School, one of the clubs would sell flowers before big holidays. They would deliver them to the recipient's homeroom at the start of the day. I had a friend who sent a mentally challenge girl flowers anonymously. He heard her say that she loved the flowers every one got. That it really made her happy to see the other girls smiling all day with their flowers. He decided then and there she should get to smile all day (she usually did smile all day) I helped him pick out the flowers and everyone thought he was getting them for me. (we were just friends). The girl was in my homeroom. She beamed all day. She couldn't believe they were for her. Other people kept commenting on how lucky she was. For once she was the belle of the ball. I did receive flowers from another friend which helped with the secrecy. Without knowing who or why the flowers were sent, there was no second guessing about the motive. There was no opportunity for someone to turn it into a cruel joke. No chance for her to be teased.
To this day I remember him trying not tell me what he was doing and still getting my help. It was kind of awkward. I am so happy I kept his secret. Plus for the next 2 years this girl got flowers everytime they were sold. Always anonymously, because everyone saw how happy it made her. Everytime she was just as surprised as the first time.
Keeping nice acts a secret definitely has a way of causing them to multiply. At least that is my experience. On the less generous side, if you keep it to yourself, others won't assume you are going to keep doing it. that opens opportunities for others to get the same blessings.
Why don't you try it this week? I'd love to hear how it goes.
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